You Can And Will Survive A Breakup

You can survive a breakup and move on with your life unless you allow it to leave you feeling empty.

Belief in the perfect “other half” is one of the false thoughts that makes you suffer. Only then will the rupture seize your happiness, essence and existence.

The importance of a breakup

Breakups become insignificant when we are concerned about the death of a loved one, a serious illness, or some other situation of greater importance.

However, we don’t need another event to realize  that we place undue importance on a breakup with our partner.  Suddenly the bottom sinks. Nothing makes sense anymore and we think we’re going to die. We are far from acceptance and, if possible,  we flound more and more in the pain that holds us. 

Did we make a mistake?

Maybe we gave everything to the other person. We may have forced ourselves into the relationship, when perhaps we should have improved our self-confidence first. Maybe we were already empty when we started the relationship, but we didn’t realize it.

However, we made a big mistake. We have prioritized, idealized and distorted our partner into our savior. Then when everything changes, we cease to exist.

You continue to exist, even after a breakup

Your partner tells you that he/she no longer feels the same about the relationship. You notice that you are  no longer yourself. 

Even when this is said to you, even if everything has changed,  you continue to exist. The biggest problem in your collapsed world is that you were attached to the other. You became the other person and you put  too much of your own responsibilities into his/her hands. 

It may seem so, but what really happens to you is that you can’t see it in perspective anymore.

Love yourself

If you don’t want to sink when your relationship ends, for whatever reason,  it’s important that you build a strong relationship with yourself. 

Why do we go to such lengths to have a good relationship with someone else, but not with ourselves?

We undervalue ourselves. Unfortunately  , we don’t give ourselves the value we actually are worth and that is the source of the problems we have.

To love freely

No one teaches us to love freely. Disney stories, faith and the constant media we are exposed to make us cling to the other person, but  what about ourselves?

We believe we are nothing if we don’t do what we’re told.

• “You must have a partner.”
• “To love is to suffer.”
• “You have to persevere in your relationship.”
• “Love takes effort.”

All these vows are engraved in our brains. These  influence how we experience both relationships and breakups. 

Letting go

We were never taught how to let go, to make the decision to let that person go  when nothing else works. We also get stuck in this, we trample our self-confidence, we shame ourselves…  We do a thousand and one things that go against our feeling.

A breakup does not mean our end. Fractures are often the freedom after a heavy load. 

Let’s stop believing in old stories that we even now think are true. Start letting go of anything that isn’t doing you any good, without feeling guilty about it.